How to Include Your Bridal Party in Wedding Planning (and Make It Fun!)

Your bridal party is made up of some of your closest friends and family—people who are excited for you and want to be part of your big day! Including them in certain planning decisions can make them feel valued and give you some helpful input. It’s also a way to create memories together before the big day! Here’s a guide on fun, easy ways to involve your bridal party in planning decisions, and make it a shared adventure.

 

1. Pick Their Brains About Bridesmaid Dress Styles

While you’ll want a say in the look and feel of your bridal party’s attire, giving them a voice in the dress selection process can go a long way. Plan a dress try-on day with your crew—either in person or virtually. Provide some color choices and let them weigh in on the styles they feel best in. Maybe someone loves strapless, another loves long sleeves. Even if you have a specific look in mind, a bit of flexibility can make them feel more comfortable and appreciated. 

 

Pro tip: Offer a few colors and let them pick shades that look best on them, or go with one color and allow them to choose different styles!

 

2. Get Their Take on Food and Drinks

Why not throw a tasting party? This is an easy way to let them be part of the food and drink decisions—and it’s pretty much a guaranteed hit. Invite your bridal party to come over or join you at the caterer’s tasting event. You can even make it a mini-competition to choose the favorite dish. As for cocktails, have fun with a little mixology session, where you and your friends can brainstorm or taste-test signature cocktail ideas. Let each person submit a drink idea for your signature drink, or even vote on their favorite combo.

 

Pro tip: Make sure to have a non-alcoholic option in the mix too, so everyone feels included!

 

3. Ask for Their Input on Music and Vibe

Your friends know how to get the party started! When you’re setting the tone for the reception, get their suggestions for a killer playlist. Create a shared playlist where each person can add songs they’d love to hear at the wedding. This is especially fun for songs they have a special connection to—maybe there’s a track that takes you all back to your college days or a tune that’s “your song” with a friend. Not only will you have a more diverse playlist, but your friends will love hearing their picks played on the big day.

 

Pro tip: Don’t forget to veto any songs that *you* would rather avoid! After all, it’s your wedding.

 

4. Invite Them to DIY Sessions

If you’re doing some DIY projects, like creating centerpieces, assembling favors, or designing signage, invite your bridal party over for a crafting session. It’s a great way to get things done while spending time together. Put on some tunes, order some snacks, and turn the “work” into a fun, collaborative experience. Not only will they feel more connected to the wedding itself, but you’ll also make some great memories along the way.

 

Pro tip: If anyone is super crafty, let them lead a mini-project to let their creativity shine!

 

5. Give Them a Say in the Bachelorette Bash

While the maid of honor usually spearheads the bachelorette party planning, get everyone involved! You could have a casual group chat to brainstorm ideas, or even send out a quick poll for input on destination, activities, or themes. Let each person bring up one thing they’d love to do—whether it’s a cozy night in, a beach day, or a dance-all-night affair. It’s a fun way to make sure everyone’s interests are heard while keeping things easy and light.

 

Pro tip: Be clear about your must-haves so the group knows where they have freedom to add their flair!

 

Final Thoughts: Make Them Feel Like VIPs

Your bridal party is there because they mean something special to you. Including them in these planning moments isn’t just helpful—it’s a way to make them feel valued and part of the journey. Plus, the memories you make along the way will last just as long as the ones you create on your big day. Happy planning!